How BDSM is Essential to Me

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Any degree of BDSM activities have become an integral part of my life and with my personal or intimate relationships. Without a direct structure actively present I feel out of balance.

Manifested in two forms

  • Non-sexual BDSM activities – FemDom the kinks
  • Sexual BDSM activities – FemDom the fetish

My needs and wants are anticipated and fulfilled without request, or they will be obeyed as requested when requested. Per prior consented and agreed with terms.

No matter the activity or how it may look like to outsiders, I do not service a man. I am just serving myself through the submissive; he becomes my fun tool even if he is in distress or hurt. I own that tool even if is for a short time frame. I don’t mind how he identifies his consensual submission; the person-as-object and/or person-as-companion.

My intent is to put him to be of good use

I’d expect the man in him fulfill his duties by nature: provide but to provide in my terms.

Communication, Trust, Respect, and Consent

Without any of those, we wouldn’t be compatible and therefore, we would have absolutely nothing. I’d need direct consent or agreement to a dynamic, relationship or activities.

  • I have no use for a man who has been dehumanized, degraded, humiliated or hurt to the point he has changed his principles and/or views of himself or his life in an everyday setting. Even if he consent me to.
  • Just because he consented me to an activity or to a certain degree that doesn’t mean that I will act upon it. I am the one with the last word. The one in charge at all times. Sure, he can walk away, refuse to obey or revoke consent anytime but can’t do so without jeopardizing the connection. There will be a time and place to express needs and wants but during an activity in progress is just not the best time.
  • Communicating overall health facts or technical suggestions is the only exception of the above. It is his responsibility because he is as much part of the dynamic and after all, I am as human as him.

Despite the details of our kinky play, I have no genuine malice or a hidden malicious agenda. I need a strong man capable to take control of situations and himself. More importantly, so he can keep serving me.

I have no need to be a “goddess” because I do not wish to be compared or compete with whatever created us, humans. I am not that arrogant! I am, however, simply then The Queen of my own damned BDSM kingdom. So yes, I expect a degree of adoration and devotion if a cis-male chooses to be part of it somehow.

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